Texted Thank You? No, Thank You!

Hello Grace!

I LOVE your blog. I was having a discussion with one of my friends and we could not reach a conclusion - and we both figured you would know the answer. What is the proper etiquette for sending a wedding gift thank you note? We have heard anywhere from one month after the honeymoon to the first year after marriage. I received a (gasp!) TEXT MESSAGE, thanking me for a lovely wedding gift I sent for an August wedding. I assumed the text was just a quick way to let me know that the gift arrived, and was certain I would be getting a formal thank you note in the mail - as the wedding itself was black tie. It is now mid-February and I am still sans thank you note. Could it be possible that the text message was the actual thank you note?

Please help!




Grace Says:

Thanks for writing, thanks for reading, glad you love the blog. I had to pause and take a deep cleansing breath and steady myself with a strong drink after reading your email--a TEXT MESSAGE, egad. Talk about Grunt. General consensus in the etiquette world dictates that 3 months is the frozen limit. And yes, handwritten notes are absolute.

Not surprisingly, I have strong opinions on The Art of Gratitude.

Keep up YOUR good Graces!