tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34038096.post7481407639209499918..comments2023-07-08T10:20:00.432-04:00Comments on The Social Grace: Holiday HorrorSocial Gracehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10715242748755030957noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34038096.post-59488118617765739982012-06-13T03:51:06.811-04:002012-06-13T03:51:06.811-04:00Prima Donna should have been offered the entire co...Prima Donna should have been offered the entire courtesy of the house, including the en-suite queen bedroom, with the compoany of her future father in law as a bedmate to build a bond for their future relationship.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34038096.post-12852188744612591672012-01-10T09:44:18.594-05:002012-01-10T09:44:18.594-05:00Thank you SG!!Your comment makes a lot more sense ...Thank you SG!!Your comment makes a lot more sense and am so glad i dint loose my cool..Musehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09667688207728717313noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34038096.post-7492697929765229052012-01-06T22:06:43.811-05:002012-01-06T22:06:43.811-05:00Thanks for your comment, Muse. The simple answer ...Thanks for your comment, Muse. The simple answer is, not really. I applaud your restraint; there is never a Gracious way for a hostess to inform a guest that she is being rude. But, the desire to do so doesn't make you a Bad Grace; Graces are human, and sometimes even we are pushed too far. <br /><br />If you must convey your displeasure, I strongly advise waiting until the obnoxious guest is almost out the door. Peaceful coexistence after such a declaration is unlikely, and if the departure time is governed by, say, an airline ticket or a night's sleep you may be stuck with a rude AND annoyed-at-being-chastised houseguest for what will seem to be a very long time. Not a pretty picture. <br /><br />If you must voice your opinion, do so in the most factual way possible, taking ownership of your feelings, and avoiding inflammatory language/scolding. Say something like "GF, I was upset that you didn't approve of the accommodations we provided for you. I worked hard to ensure that everyone was as comfortable as possible in a full house." Don't apologize and don't dwell on her comments or conduct.<br /><br />The path of the Grace is not the easiest one; sadly, we often are forced to compensate for the bad behavior of others. Keep up the good Grace and Happy New Year!Social Gracehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10715242748755030957noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34038096.post-53630653372871317842012-01-06T09:13:42.932-05:002012-01-06T09:13:42.932-05:00Kudos to the host for showing unbelievable restrai...Kudos to the host for showing unbelievable restraint..<br />But SG, are there any more graceful ways of letting the obnoxious GF know that she was rude?<br />I've had a similar experience before, i did show some restraint but i still feel i should have given the person a piece of my mind rather than just gritting my teeth..<br />Am i being a bad grace?Musehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09667688207728717313noreply@blogger.com