tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34038096.post4124704561338805889..comments2023-07-08T10:20:00.432-04:00Comments on The Social Grace: Why I Dislike ShowersSocial Gracehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10715242748755030957noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34038096.post-30436882777306175172011-02-02T08:58:09.059-05:002011-02-02T08:58:09.059-05:00Anonymous 2: I like the couples shower idea; actu...Anonymous 2: I like the couples shower idea; actually threw one for my sister's wedding shower and it was great fun.<br /><br />Anonymous 3: You are right that it is nice to step out of the hustle and bustle to celebrate with friends--but people have different ideas of celebration, good food and fun. Just as some love jello salad, sherbet punch and silly hats made of wrapping paper, others enjoy chicken salad, or bowling, or Scrabble or opera. With all the busyness of life, free time can be scarce, so sometimes we don't want to use that rare commodity on something that we don't enjoy. (And yes, I recognize that that is a bit selfish.) Thanks for your very valid comment!Social Gracehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10715242748755030957noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34038096.post-35497746310179888152011-02-02T00:51:05.465-05:002011-02-02T00:51:05.465-05:00What about ditching the whole "Shower" i...What about ditching the whole "Shower" idea and moving to a "Couples Shower" which is actually a cocktail party. You can the games and you do what I call - the Price Is Right Demo with all incoming gifts? I find this a good alternative that gets everyone in the party/celebrating mood without the drag of an actual shower.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34038096.post-41458314560643934342011-02-01T20:27:30.323-05:002011-02-01T20:27:30.323-05:00In the current state of our world, any cause to ce...In the current state of our world, any cause to celebrate, be it a shower, picnic or other happy event.......I say "do it." Step out of the hustle bustle and relax. True gift giving and the art of sharing in the happiest of friendships is rare. Does the food really matter? I agree with "A little bit about me.." Don't take it all too seriously. Life and real friendships are way too short.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34038096.post-73703062029602089252011-02-01T10:08:05.998-05:002011-02-01T10:08:05.998-05:00Yes, anonymous, you certainly make a good point. ...Yes, anonymous, you certainly make a good point. Showers just may be my "Grace Achilles Heel!" Thanks for writing.Social Gracehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10715242748755030957noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34038096.post-86457851168474260352011-02-01T10:07:13.651-05:002011-02-01T10:07:13.651-05:00Another "Anonymous" sent this via email:...Another "Anonymous" sent this via email: <br />I love the post but I don't agree with all of it. The post is assuming the Grace attends the shower. I think she should but I know a "Grace" or two that send a gift and bail. From what I know about etiquette that is not what a true Grace should do. Graces go and support their family and friends even if they don't like the activity. <br /><br />Now let's say the Grace can and does go...I don't think a Grace should overtake a shower the way you suggest. I think many brides like the boring gift opening tradition. The assembly line is okay if the host and bride are on board. If Great Aunt Tootsie wants to see a tea cup please will another minute kill you? It may be her last shower. I know you are over the gift thing, but she may not be happy about it.Social Gracehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10715242748755030957noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34038096.post-139266832180738272011-01-31T14:14:31.947-05:002011-01-31T14:14:31.947-05:00Thanks for your comment! My position generally is...Thanks for your comment! My position generally is between consenting adults, as long as no one gets hurt, then it's ok. So enjoy the showers--different strokes for different folks, that's why they make chocolate and vanilla.Social Gracehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10715242748755030957noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34038096.post-13117106972773565682011-01-31T00:47:44.106-05:002011-01-31T00:47:44.106-05:00I love showers and always open invitations with jo...I love showers and always open invitations with joy and excitement. I love helping to celebrate the upcoming nuptials or impending parenthood of friends and family. It brings us closer together. And the tradition of opening gifts and playing silly games, I think it is a chance to have a bit of fun and even laugh at yourself. Why take it all so seriously? I have also attended showers without games and without the opening of presents. No laughter, no bonding and unfortunately, very boring. Does this mean I have no class?Queen of Tideshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13519248451898425630noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34038096.post-42700836515203934232011-01-28T10:53:42.565-05:002011-01-28T10:53:42.565-05:00Thanks, anonymous! I agree w/ you on the games an...Thanks, anonymous! I agree w/ you on the games an punch. I'll have a think on strategy and post some ideas soon.Social Gracehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10715242748755030957noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34038096.post-6043720247495381892011-01-28T09:58:21.847-05:002011-01-28T09:58:21.847-05:00I have seen this strategy employed at showers, and...I have seen this strategy employed at showers, and it is brilliant. If only a similar strategy could be utilized for the silly games and fruity punch.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com